1. Bring food – comfort food.
I was extremely blessed with over six weeks of meals from fellow mama’s. My MOPS group and bible study collaborated and set up a meal coordination program so that mama’s could sign up and bring me (and other mama’s in our group) a meal. Everyone did it a little differently and I got some great tips for when it’s my turn to help someone out. The easiest meals were definitely the ones that I could just throw the container away – no dishes and no returns. With a newborn, sometimes it’s just as hard to wash a dish and remember to give it back as it was to just make the meal myself. Also, make sure you take into account the other members of her family – does she have a picky eater, food allergies, a hubby who is working and/or other kiddos at home. The thought out meals were really appreciated and also the meals I could just pop into the freezer were a huge help when we were already overloaded with left overs.
2. Take the baby and let her shower.
Yes please! Especially the second time mom. Learning to adjust to two was HARD! It took a couple weeks for me to be able to learn when I could shower and most of the time it wasn’t until my hubby got home. So please, just stop over, take the baby from her arms and tell her she smells and to take a nice, loooong shower. She will be grateful.
3. Paint her toenails and do her hair.
I still haven’t gotten this one down yet. Sadly my toes nails are usually horribly chipped or don’t have polish on them period. To have my nails painted and a brush actually run through my hair is a glorious feeling, help a mama out. Especially those first couple weeks when hormones are running wild and sleep doesn’t happen often and your body still looks six months pregnant – nail polish and your hair done can make you feel like a new person. So let her sit there, cuddle her new baby and get pampered a bit.
4. Do the dishes and a load of laundry.
I guarantee these both are piling up. They only get done when they absolutely have to and then they start piling up again. To get a slight break is much appreciated.
5. Wipe down her bathroom and if time deep clean it too.
I can’t tell you how hard it was for me to let someone else clean my bathroom. BUT it was one of the things I appreciated the most. Toward the end of my pregnancies (both of them) cleaning the bathroom was near impossible, completely uncomfortable and didn’t happen often enough. Then enter actually having the baby. Squatting and scrubbing your tub isn’t the first thing that comes to mind after pushing a tiny (or sometimes not so tiny) human out of you. She will worship the ground you walk on if you offer to do this for her (and she lets you).
6. Change her sheets.
I’m short or maybe that is just a lame excuse because I hate doing it. But I have a really hard time changing the sheets on my queen size bed. It’s such a pain in the neck. And to do so soon after you gave birth is even harder. Another not so fun chore that she will appreciate as she has more time to just sit and snuggle her new little bundle of joy and ease into adjusting to this new life.
7. Hold the baby while I play with my toddler.
Ok, so this only applies to second (or third or forth or fifth) time mom’s obviously. One of the hardest things for me to adjust to was not being able to spend as much time with my toddler as I used to. It was awesome when I could hand my newborn off for a little bit and have some one on one time with my toddler and know my newborn was being well loved on. Or vice versa. Sometimes my toddler just wanted someone to play with and it didn’t have to always be mommy. It was very important to me to make sure he didn’t feel forgotten and had plenty of attention. I appreciated the times, and still do, I have to play with him and know my smaller guy is being well loved on.